Woman is synonymous with “multi-action”. Almost all women are, in their daily lives, essential figures so that the routine, not only for her, but for her family as well, works and that everything goes well. The biggest issue is the visibility that these small essential tasks gain in the representation of the female image.
Society has a history of devaluation of women's work, men have always been seen as the "money makers" and "sustainers" of the home. However, such consideration does not take into account the unmoneyed value of everyday tasks.
In addition to the various tasks performed to clean, organize and maintain the house, women have increasingly played the role of “parents”. The presence of both figures for the development of a family is extremely important for raising children. What is seen is a concentration of this responsibility only in the mother figure, since the father is the “hero of finance”, where once again, money overrides any other value, a typical attitude of modern society.
The issue is not just the excess of affective responsibilities that fell on the woman of the house, but the absence of the father not being noticed. The male being is continually valued for his manual work, intellectual considered extreme and dedicated and still earns the merit of a good father figure for the concern for the future of the family and for small demonstrations of affection.
Taken by a capitalist conscience, not even men notice such behavior and end up limiting themselves to superficial, distant and little influential relationships in the lives of their children. This position in the family structure ends up also affecting the relationships with his partner, who finds herself overloaded, devalued and oppressed by ideals of devaluation existing in our world and supported by male action.
However, it is difficult to judge the male figure itself, it is a larger context. A social background has been able to develop these ingrained stigmas that result in an unfair division of labor and even worse recognition.
It is up to couples to reassess their attitudes towards the family, in order not to overload either side and make living together more pleasant.
Everyone likes to be recognized for what they do and deserves attention and value for their attitudes, whether related to money or not.
- Written by Julia Zayas of Team Me Without Borders.
