In abusive relationships with perverse narcissists, both in seduction and in the aftermath of events, the sky is the limit. After the time of seduction, however, in the second part of the story, the idea of ending everything that means existence in the other is part of this macabre scenario, where only one fits.
The effect of this plot is often devastating on the lives of those who have taken the bait of such social psychopaths. Today they are recognized as one of the most destructive relationships that can exist. It is so serious that when comparing the characteristics of these aggressors with those of a psychopath, few differences will be found.
Perverse narcissism has always existed, but it is in our age of spectacle, the time when it has space for its realization.
Their prey, already wounded in their fields of emotional development, have an almost unthinkable and most of the time unconscious fear of going through some kind of rejection with the one who promised to be their caregiver and savior and who still affirmed with all the lyrics that would give you your deepest love. The one who at first demonstrated knowledge of the most secret needs and who seemed to have more empathy than anyone he had ever met. They invent that they are the only and legitimate substitutes for a legitimate love that their own parents never had for their prey. Most of the time, the people in your relationships have already been victims of narcissistic parents and are still hoping to be seen and welcomed by a look of loving presence. Somehow, knowing this, even if unconsciously, such narcissists also know that their victims from a very early age learned to function in the midst of massive submission in order to satisfy their parents' desires and needs, in the search for some sense of belonging to them. . They also learned that, acting as if they were compliant, they would hope to receive some welcoming look that could fill the terror of the feeling of emptiness, loneliness, insecurity and emotional abandonment that these parents caused.
The narcissist himself, will make the affective relationship, work or whatever, turn into a real hell insofar as he skillfully manipulates the people around him for his only objective which is the recognition only of himself. .
The only thing the perverse Narcissist has the capacity to love is the love of the other towards himself. There is no way out from this degree of blind pathology. He will do anything to remind his chosen victims that they must have absolutely no personal desires, for only his is what counts. With that, those who dare to claim individuality, will go through all sorts of humiliation and shame until they learn who is the only person that can exist within this type of relationship. And even when they are emotionally torn, victims are intimidated and induced to present themselves to society as their won trophies.
In the midst of their psychotic nuclei and how intelligent they are, they develop in a highly articulated way, in the midst of a totally distorted and delusional perception of themselves, in the certainty that they have unlimited merit over everything and everyone. They can possess a high social functioning possessing enough persuasion skills to invalidate and diminish anyone who stands in front of them as impediments to their achievements of personal brilliance, making them feel despicable, doubting their own perception and mental health.
In abusive relationships, often friends and family do not see abusive situations that may be happening under their eyes, even victims, over a period of time that may be too long, may find it difficult to be clear about what is happening. They face life and people as if they were part of a game, they are calculating, ambitious and self-interested, and they never relate to someone who cannot benefit them or provide something in return.
The issue of perverse narcissism and its implications is an extremely necessary topic to be seen, known and recognized worldwide. The consequence of this pathological state of the psyche in unsuspecting people can be a violent and highly destructive relationship as the victim is discredited in his perceptions while being emotionally abused. If the person does not wake up in time, he will go through a lonely hell and not infrequently, even when lucid, he may be discredited before others. Perverse speech is adept at inverting truths, throwing all the blame, shame, confusion and madness onto the victim.
Thanks to articles like this one and other sources of knowledge needed today, what was previously little or nothing identifiable as a pathology of the psyche is now increasingly known by the general population as Perverse Narcissism.
